Glad to be divorced

Before I was divorced, my response to learning that someone else was divorced was an automatic, “I’m sorry.” But now I know, it’s a good thing and a privilege, usually, to be divorced! It means I had enough money to support myself financially as a single parent and professional, what a blessing! I wasn’t stuck in a financial marriage to an asshole anymore. 

Maybe, “I’m sorry,” is still a good response, though. Even a wanted divorce is one of the most traumatic things a person can experience. 

When I had my babies, I was the most vulnerable I’ve ever felt in life. The way someone treats you in that state, that was all I needed to know. I knew then I could never forgive him for hurting me during that season in my life. I knew then that he didn’t love me. He didn’t take care of me when I was extremely sick. He didn’t help with the baby. I felt so alone.