It's ok to fire your husband

I saw a woman screaming at her husband and kicking him out of the house. I remembered the screaming fights from my own first marriage and felt so grateful to be free. When you talk to your partner, you should be able to get their attention with a quiet voice. They should respond to your concerns the first time, reassure you, apologize, make changes (within reason), or explain their point of view. This is caring.

Sometimes partners are selfish, punishing, don’t want to listen, willfully ignore. That is when the other partner tries to scream in order to be heard. This is the wrong thing to do, though, and it takes two to tango. The screaming partner is also at fault for being verbally abusive in response to injustice. The only thing to do is walk away from a person who doesn’t care about you, but that’s not always possible. Bad behaviors usually come out when you’re locked in: living together or married. It can be impossible to predict. 

It’s ok to fire your husband if he’s not doing a good job. You tried to help him improve his performance with feedback, therapy, possibly for years. It’s ok to stay and keep trying for as long as you need to. But it’s also ok to leave, and you might feel much better if you do.